to teach students about the concept of positive, healthy friendships. ○ to acknowledge the links between healthy friendships and positive self-esteem.
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 Title: There™s Nothing Better than a Good Friend Theme: Considering the Charac teristics of a Good Friend Time: 175 minutes (approx. 3 hours) Materials: Want Ad for a Friend – Assignment Friendship Stoplight – Laminated Game Magnets or Masking Tape Chart Paper & Markers Solving Problems In Friendships – Homework Assignment Agree/Disagree Chart Worksheet Ball (beach ball or object that can be tossed between students) Objectives to teach students about the concept of positive, healthy friendships to acknowledge the links between healthy friendships and positive self-esteem to consider the reasons it is important to have good friends to allow students to think about their own criteria for healthy friendships to discuss the healthy signs, warning signs and unhealthy signs in friendships to have students explore strategies to deal with difficult situations in friendships to identify the effects of social influences on gender roles and equity Curriculum Expectations 4p8 – identify the characteristics of healthy relationships (e.g., showing consideration of others™ feelings by avoiding negative communication) 4p9 – identify the challenges (e.g., conflicting opinions) and responsibilities in their relationships with family and friends 5p9 – identify strategies to deal positively with stress and pressures that result from relationships with family and friends 5p10 – identify factors (e.g., trust, honesty, caring) that enhance healthy relationships with friends, family, and peers 6p9 – apply a problem-solving / decisionŒmaki ng process to address issues related to friends, peers, and family relationships
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 Background Information This lesson focuses on the issues young people face surrounding friendships during adolescence. This topic is important becaus e while friendships are vital throughout life, peer groups and social relations among friends gain increasing importance during puberty and adolescence. As the peer group becomes a more significant source of influence, friendships begin to take on new meaning. During puberty, children will be making new friends at school and in social settings, and many will also be coping with evolving friendships from their earlier childhood. Friendships are often put to the test during senior elementary and secondary school. Children struggle to maintain relationships with peers who may be changing in a variety of ways. Problems can occur when children form ficliques,fl begin to fihang out fl with different crowds, or when they simply grow apart from previous friends. Peer pressure can be a problem for adolescents. For example, sometimes young people who choose to use drugs and alcohol try to persuade their friends to do the same. Inevitably, the friends children choose will shape their experiences in critical ways. This lesson is designed to compel students to think about their own criteria for postive friendships, to discuss ways to evaluate fr iendships and to explore ways to deal with difficult situations in their friendships. Procedure Activity One: Class Discussion Rega rding Friendships – 30 minutes Tell your students that you will be discussing friendships during today™s lesson. Encourage students to participate frequently during the discussion, as their input on this topic is very important.
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 Here are some ideas you may use to guide your discussion. What kind of things can we do to begin and keep friendships? Join a club or a team. Meet a neighbour. Seek out a friend at school. Make contact with the person you would like to know better. Find ways to spend time with him/her. Talk about yourself, sharing more information as time goes by. Talk on the phone, write text and/or instant message or e-mail notes to your friend. What is a friend? Friends are people – –we feel close to. Friends are peopl e who have similar interests, people who care about us, and people we can trust. Friends offer support and understanding when we really need it. Last class, we talked a lot about self-esteem or feeling good about ourselves. How do you think self-esteem is related to friendships? When we feel good about ourselves, we are more likely to choose friends that are good for us. There is a saying that says, fiwe teach people how to treat usfl. In other words, how we behave toward ourselves and other people gives them clues as to how they should behave towards us. If we feel good about ourselves and respect ourselves, and treat others wit h respect, we are showing people how we would like to be treated. Why is it important to have good friends? True friendship is important. Friends support one another, listen to each other and give advice. When you and your friend share personal information about yourselves, you can learn from each other and explore what you have in common and what makes you different. Friends can teach us many things like how to play a game or how to make a craf t. Friends can introduce us to exciting things like delicious new foods and interest ing customs or celebrations. You can also learn about acceptance by appreciating the different qualities that make us unique individuals. When you accept people for who they are, you are being a respectful friend.
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 What kinds of things do you li ke doing with your friends? Ideas might include: playing games (video) and sports, hanging out, having lunch together, attending Girl Guides, Boy Scouts or other community groups, going to classes together (e.g., dance, martial arts, music lessons), watching television/movies, using the computer, working on projects and/or doing homework together. How can we be good friends? Share our interests and activities Trust each other and be honest Share our thoughts and feelings Respect each other™s opinions and beliefs Try to relate to how the other person feels Be sincere with each other Accept each other for who we are Encourage and support each other Commit to the friendship Activity Two: (2 parts) Part A: Ball Toss Œ 10 minutes This is a warm-up activity to help students explore the qualities of healthy relationships. Have the students stand up behind their desks or in a circle at the front of the room. Toss the ball to someone in the group, and ask them to call out a word that represents qualities of a healthy relationship (for example; trust, supportive, kind, fun–). Ask that person to then toss the ball to someone else. Each time a new student catches the ball, ask them to share a new quality– and so on. Part B: Want Ad for a Friend – 20 minutes Tell your students that you would like them to think about the characteristics that are most important in a friend. Distribute the assignment entitled, fiWant Ad For A Friendfl. Ask your students to complete this assignment individually. Allow students ten to fifteen minutes of quiet writing time. Once students have written the advertisement, ask some students to share their work by reading aloud to the class. (Friendship Want Ad handout can be found following this lesson)
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 Activity Three: Friendship Stoplight Game – 30 minutes Here are the instructions to set up the Friendship Stoplight Game. (The Stoplight game cards can be found following this lesson). On the top left corner of your board or wall space, use tape or magnets to attach the red stoplight card that reads, fiThese are bad signs in a friendshipfl. Changes In Me: A Resource For Educators On Puberty And Adolescen t Development Peel @ 9 05-799-770 Peel Health Department: Healthy Sexuality Program ŒContact Health Line 0 Place the corresponding yellow and green stoplights underneath, like in a street stoplight. Changes In Me: A Resource For Educators On Puberty And Adolescent Development Peel Health Department: Healthy Sexuality Program ŒContact Health Line Peel @ 905-799-7700 Shuffle the stoplight scenario cards to ensure that they are not in order. Changes In Me: A Resource For Educators On Puberty And Adolescent Development Peel Health Department: Healthy Sexuality Program ŒContact Health Line Peel @ 905-799-7700 The graphic shown below appears on each scenario card. The object of this game is to decide which scenarios are most compatible with each of the following three statem ents: fithese are bad signs in a friendshipfl, fithese are warning signs in a friendshipfl and fithese are good signs in a friendshipfl. Attach the appropriate answers to the board/wall beside the corresponding stoplight with tape or magnets. There are several ways that you can play this game. You can read the scenarios aloud and ask students where they think they best belong. You can give scenarios out to groups of students and they can arrive at a consensus. You can place the scenarios on overheads or on the document arm and ask volunteers to give suggestions. You might also consider placing the scenarios around the room and asking for volunteers to place them beside the proper stoplight on the board. No matter what pedagogical strategy you use to play this game, be sure that you ask students for explanations regarding their choices. The most important part of this activity is the discussion around whether each scenario constitutes a good, a warning or a bad sign in a friendship. It is in this arena that students will be able to discuss their various points of view. Your role in this game is to facilitate and mediate the conversations of your students. When there is disagreement, you might choose not to place the scenario beside one statement, but rather choose to set it aside for further debate and discussion. If the scenario clearly represents a bad or warning sign, be sure to make this clear for your students.
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 There are fifteen scenario cards. Five scenarios correspond with each coloured stoplight: red (unhealthy/bad signs), yello w (warning signs) and green (healthy/good signs). While there may be some discrepancies, the following is a list of suggested correct answers. RED LIGHT: These are unhealthy/bad signs in a friendship. 1. You are afraid of your friend™s temper. 2. Your friend criticizes y ou or people you care about. 3. Your friend threatens to hurt you. 4. Your friend bullies and makes fu n of you or other kids at school. 5. Your friend pressures you to do things you do not want to do. YELLOW LIGHT: These are warni ng signs in a friendship. 6. You are nervous that if you tell y our friend something personal, s/he will tell other people at school. 7. Your friend sometimes makes fun of you. 8. You rarely get to plan what the two of you will do together. 9. Your friend tells you not to hang out with certain people. 10. You say that you agree with your friend, even when you really don™t. You are afraid they won™t be your friend anymore if you disagree. GREEN LIGHT: These are healthy/good signs in a friendship. 11. You usually feel happy when you are with this person. 12. Your friend respects your feelings and your opinions. 13. Your friend talks to you about his/her feelings. 14. Your friend is happy when good things happen to you. 15. You enjoy being with this person, but you also enjoy spending time with other friends. Activity Four: Solving Problems In Friends hips Homework Assignment – 5 minutes Distribute the homework assignment. Remind your students about the IDEAL Decision- Making Model to which they were introduced to in Lesson Five. (If you have not yet used the model, please refer to Lesson Five for a detailed explanation.) While it is not necessary, they could use the IDEAL Deci sion-Making Model to guide their answers.
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 2. Spend a brief amount of ti me as a whole class sharing students™ responses. Ask for a show of hands about who agrees/disagrees with the statements and have volunteers share their reasons. Open the topic up for discussion, clarifying any misconceptions. PART B: 3. Organize the students into mixed or same gender groups of four or five. Explain that each person in the group is to have a specific task. If the class has had experience formulating group responsibilities, assign the following roles: – 2 recorders (record the information) – 1 organizer (keeps time, encourages people to stay focused) – 1 idea seeker (reminds students of the task, asks group for ideas, etc.). 4. When these tasks have been distributed among the groups, pass out one piece of flipchart paper and two markers to each group and ask the recorders to copy the following diagram in the middle of the chart paper: 5. Divide the class into two. One half fo cuses on the male roles and the other half on female roles. (If the class consists of six small groups, three are assigned the task of male roles and three female roles.) Regardless, each group works on its own chart, focusing on one gender. 6. Instruct students to fill in the inner square with words or ideas that express all the things that only boys/males or girls/females can do/be or are supposed to do/be. Have them leave the inner circle blank for now. Explain that these items should reflect what students have been taught, either directly or indirectly, by parents, teachers, siblings and friends. The list does not reflect what is necessarily true. Many of these items may be stereotypes of untrue expectations (e.g., girls/women are soft, sweet, etc.; boys/men are strong, don™t cry, like sports, etc.). Provide approximately five to ten minutes to complete this task.
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 7. Bring the class together. Ask each group to report back its list (adding only what has not already been stated from the other groups). Compile two master lists Œ one for males and one for females Œ on the board or chart paper as students share their brainstorm. In the following discussion, consider the following questions: Do you think it™s reasonable for all boys/males and girls/females to act in these ways? Are there people we know who fit within this square? Are there people we know who do not fit within this square? What is it called when we make assumptions and put expectations on certain individuals or groups based on their gender? 8. At this point, define gender-ro le stereotyping with students: Gender-role stereotyping: the assumption that males and females are limited by gender in their interests, capabilities and accomplishments. It is the expectation that being a male or female biologically limits what one can do as a human being. Simplified version: thinking that boys can do only some things and should be interested in only some things just because they are boys, and thinking that girls can do only some things and should be interested in only some things just because they are girls. 9. Record an appropriate definition for the class so that it is visible in the classroom. 10. Have students return to their working gr oups. Before starti ng the next task, ask the recorders to write in the inner circle the word figender-role stereotyping fl e.g.;
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 PART C: 11. For the next task, have students insert wo rds and ideas they think of if boys/girls don™t fit into what is in the box. (e.g., what happens if a girl/female is not skinny, sweet, doesn™t like shopping, and likes to build things, etc.? What happens if a boy/male is not strong, cries, doesn™t like sports, likes to cook, etc.?) Ask students to consider specific slurs or put-downs that are used, assumptions people may have about the girl/boy, negative behaviours towards the person not fitting into the gender role. Teacher Note: Be sure to create a safe envir onment by letting students know that it™s okay to use slang and/or inappropriate language for the purpose of deconstructing myths and stereotypes. You may want to discuss this lesson (language use) with your administrator prior implementing this activity. For example: 12. As a whole class, discuss the students™ re sults. List in categories the ideas that groups came up with. Create headings, and record appropriate items under the headings as students share.
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Lesson Seven Changes In Me: A Puberty and Adolescent Development Resource for Educators Junior Grade Level, Second Edition Peel Public Health, Healthy Sexuality Program, 905-799-7700 For example: Boys/males who don™t fifit infl Ideas (stereotyping) Behaviours (di scrimination) Attitudes (prejudice) Wants to be/act like a girl Is gay, homosexual Likes boys Name-calling (sissy, faggot, gay) Left out Picked on, beaten up Disliked or hated 13. Share ideas with the class as to how t he victim might feel if these thoughts, behaviours and negative attitudes were targeted at him/her (e.g., sad, isolated, angry, ashamed, embarrassed, etc–). What might he/she do to get away from this treatment? (e.g., change to be something he/she is not, pretend to be different, fight back, become violent and angry, change schools, become isolated, depressed, etc.) Discuss the ways that gender-role stereotypi ng hurts everybody: males and females. Ask students to provide examples of times that they, or someone they know, have stepped out of the traditional gender role in their lives (e.g., males cooking or taking care of younger siblings, females being athletic or working in construction). Possible Extensions Once their homework assignments have been submitted, think about having students role-play their way through some of the fifriendship problemsfl. Consider having classmates judge their performances, offering alternative suggestions for solving the problems. Activity Five Œ Possible Extensions: 1. In groups, create posters that ex press messages of gender equity and anti- homophobia education to place around the school. 2. Read stories of same-sex families or gay/lesbian and bisexual characters (refer to the sexual orientation section in the introduction/teacher guide section). 3. Research how gender-role stereotyp ing and homophobic attitudes are perpetuated in our society (e.g., peer behaviour, parents, media, religion).
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